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- Hometown:
- live in regina
- Relationship Status:
- Married
- How long clean and sober
- its my husband im worried about
- About Me:
- my husband drinks a lot, he gets angry when i mention it. we got married 2 years ago and i am concerned that he wont be able to quit when he does want to. it affects a lot of our social life.
- Looking for?
- someone to talk to, suggestions. somebody who understands what it is like to live with someone who drinks a lot.
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I understand what it is like to live with someone that drinks alot, that is the way that I grew up. My previous comment is something that I have had to do with my dad, who I don't even call dad anymore, I call him by his first name, Wayne. I understand what you are talking about, I have also lived with various boyfriends that were alcoholics. If I can help please don't be afraid to ask. I know what it is like.
Detachment, a recovery tool for the family of the alcoholic, it helps you to help yourself.
In Al-Anon we learn individuals are not responsible for another person's disease or recovery from it.
We let go of the obsession with another's behavior and begin to lead happier and more manageable lives, lives with dignity and rights: lives guided by a Power greater than ourselves, who I believe is The Great Lord above, or God, whichever you want to call him.
In Al-Anon we learn:
-Not to suffer because of the actions or reactions of other people.
-Not to allow ourselves to be used or abused in the interest of another's recovery.
-Not to do for other what they should do for themselves.
-Not to manipulate situations so others will eat, go to bed, get up, pay bills, etc:
-Not to cover up for anoother's mistakes.
-Not to create a crisis.
-Not to prevent a crisis if it is in the natural course of events.
Detachment is neither kind or unkind. It does not imply evaluation of the person or situation from which we are detaching. It is simply a means for us to recover from the adverse effects of the disease of alcoholism upon our lives. Detachment is not leaving that person, it is a tool for your own self.
Unfortunately, I have had to look at the disease of alcoholism from both sides. My parents are both alcoholics and were abusive to all five of us kids, and in the end all of the kids have had their own problems with drugs or alcohol. If you have any children, I would suggest that you start attending Al-Anon meetings, if you haven't already. Good luck to you, and never give up hope, hope will keep your dreams alive. Erin
a) Face to Face LifeRing Meeting
b) Establishing a LifeRing Family, Friends and Loved Ones Support Organization
Fran: Go to unhooked.com, first page regarding Congress meeting coming up, hope this helps = LSR has been great for me and the support i've received during my recovery. Looks like they're expanding the help the friends, families and loved ones. :o) Hang in there