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5 months sober,never thought i'd get there.xx Nov 24

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I am always dedicated to education about addiction,brave and devoted to stay on the wagon,i really understand my problem,so i guess am ready for the unexpected if it comes,and deal with it the best way i can for me,at that time.
I live with this problem day in day out,it's never gonna go away i have accepted that it's with me for the rest of my life,so i need to embrace it with caution but i wont let it consume my every thought.
I know this resonates with everyone else here no doubt e are all lo… Continue

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Despair...

Thinking positive all thetime became much harder than i thought it would ever be,i got so,so,low,and very emotional forgetting about my own feelings and neglecting myself.
I became so absorbed in recovery i forgot to ask myself how i was really feeling,and it wasn't good,got to the stage wouldn't leave the house,nor would i take the dog out for a walk,couldn't even go to the washing line,i really thougt i was cracking up,didn't even want to get dressed in the morning,or even wash or do house wor… Continue

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five months

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At 12:16pm on November 30, 2009, Jason said…: Hey girl, about 2 weeks ago I got some meds from the doc. Also. they really seem to be working. Gald you found something that works for you to. Wish you a wonderful day. Your friend jas.

At 10:31am on November 25, 2009, Rex said…: Thanks for your reply Dana. You're my first friend on the network. I'm new to LR and am giving sobriety another shot. Hope you're well today and I look forward to getting to know you better. Thanks again.

Rex

At 1:13pm on November 24, 2009, Fran said…: in case of televisual breakdown ever - my mate just sent me this:

http://www.tvcatchup.com/

F xx

At 11:44am on November 24, 2009, 1steve said…: Dana
Congrats on the 5 months way to go, so very pleased for you

At 11:38am on November 24, 2009, Fran said…: Hey :) Great to see your page up and running with your tunes and everything. Congrats on your and Hayley's 5 months + by the way. I think that's just amazing and inspiring.

Today was good thanks hon. Work less stressful than normal and nice afternoon with Anna despite the ridiculous weather. Feeling quite low about the break up but am certain was right thing to do. Andy said something a couple of weeks ago, back when I was drinking again. We were both feeling like shite the next morning as ever and he was talking about one of his mates who's been in hospital recently - alcohol related - and he said that there wasn't one of his mates who he didn't think would die of it in the end. He just came out with it. I've never known if Andy just isn't as bad a drinker as me or just doesn't turn into such a demon munster when he's drunk or else isn't so far down the path, but that comment really shook me up cause I looked at him and could see us both so clearly going the same way if we kept on, and I don't think he's ever going to give up that whole lifestyle.

On much cheerier note, not done a drop of Xmas shopping yet. Keep making lists but the weather is putting me off, is my excuse.

I have no proper telly after my freeview box packed in, which I am sorting this weekend hopefully so no jungle for me, though I keep getting sucked into it looking at the papers.

Off to make my tea from whatever is in fridge as can't face trekking to the shops in the rain. ho hum.

F xx

At 9:26am on November 24, 2009, BartR said…: Woo Hoo! Great job Dana! Congratz on your decision to not drink and to stick by it!

At 11:31am on November 23, 2009, Rick F. said…: I'd agree -- we are better off not knowing. In fact, modern physics is pretty definite on the proposition that there is nothing to know, that the future is in principle indeterminate.

As far as my personal changes are concerned, it amounts to less than you might expect. Even in company, I have been alone. Nothing about that will change: like Francis Bacon, I have been a stranger to my own time. The point is not that fact, but in facing that fact squarely, and in acknowledging the difference between solitude and isolation. Sometimes this is a hard nut to crack, but I think I am growing more equal to it. And so I shall come to whatever end I come to, at my advanced age; I hope that it is generative and of use to anyone else.

At 10:16am on November 23, 2009, Rick F. said…: Thanks, Dana -- I think good wishes like yours do have their effect. I am back to working in my profession, though not, alas, for profit -- yet the pro bono things do me a great deal of good.

I am looking ahead, past the first of the year, to be living on my own, after the end of a marriage of almost forty years. There is a sadness in that, but there is also the sense of those aspects of myself that I suppressed in making things work for that long. The fact is that I married too young, and married my "critical parent" -- thus there have to be mixed feelings. On the one hand, there is the deprivation of familiarity; on the other, the daunting but enticing sense of unexplored territory.

Who I am has been for too long a function of what others expected. With that ending, I face both peril and an almost miraculous opportunity. Choices here are critical to what happens after.

At 3:58am on November 23, 2009, Fran said…: Hey lovely :))) I've been having crappy day at work and this is first time I've smiled. Well, the same as what Hayley said below with bells on. So glad you're back and hope that all is as ok as it can be.

I know what that's like with the rollercoaster mood swings and you are brave getting help. Hope next few weeks go ok as I know it takes a time for the pills to kick in and for docs to get the dosage right. I need to do the same as am really struggling myself at the moment. I am up and down like a demented yoyo and sometimes think I'm just going mad. Can't ever seems to switch my brain off. Been trying to notch up enough sober time so that I "know what I'm like" without the booze sedating me. Realised I have no idea, I was drinking for so long.

Other than that I'm doing ok thanks. Was on holiday last week and down to Newcastle to see my sister, which after break-up with my BF was what I needed. Really just felt I needed to get away and had nice relaxing time. Went to giant fleamarket in station at Tynemouth and fish and chips on the beach all wrapped up in the cold in my giant winter coat.

Well, better go. I have snuck on here at work..again... speak soon. Hope your day is good so far.

Fran xx

At 2:30pm on November 22, 2009, adorabelle said…: Woo Hoo! The most supportive (& by far Best Looking!) member of ning is back-YEY!!!

Good for you hun going to the Dr's & asking for help, that's what the NHS is there for babe & you don't have to sit & struggle in silence,no-one gets a medal for being brave & never asking for help. I'm on anti-d's, have been on & off since I was 16/17, I messed up my seratonin levels so badly when I was younger by doing waaay too many drugs (speed, coke E's etc) so being on anti-d's is a must for me I have no choice-without them like you were feeling all I wanna do is cry & my head feels like a washing machine on permenant Turbo Spin.

Glad you're back babe, right where you belong :o) Where's Gary B nowaday's? Is he ok?
Well Done you for getting the right help & keep posting on here cos you're a great help to all us lot on here :o)
Loads a Love to you Dana
H xxx