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Seeking a Mentor or someone for regular support
Ya I agree with you Rick, some times I feel that it is only my dog that understands me or at least he is the only one who can see past all my faults and still love the bastard that I some times can b…
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Replied Nov 9
Free Speech Allowed
Ya I agree with you Jennifer, I see all us guys, AA's included, as being brothers and sisters in arms, we are in this battle together and the enemy is not just alcohol but, also societies acceptance…
Replied Nov 6
I am pulling my membership on this site in protest of the recent video BASHINGS of AA.
Hell I am only away from this site for two days and I miss all this stuff that is going on. I love your passion Michael and I so, so, believe in what you say. I was in AA for about a year before I di…
Replied Nov 1
My wife's at AA, but I don't like it!
Hi Dave- read your blog and i can see your point of view, however i do not agree with your full on fear of AA. If you saw it from your wife's point of view - she has stopped drinking and that is one…
Replied Oct 17
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It does not matter, in my opinion, what name we attach to that part of us that is broken or wounded- I would suggest however that to claim that part of who we are as 'wounded' is to imply that we can fix or heal ourselves- this can be an over hopefu…
Hi there Dennis-could not agree with you more-ever where I go in this city there is drink- But then again I am finding lately that more and more people ( a significant majority) are turning their backs on drink and the Irish 'pub culture' (culture i…
Hi fran just read your post and I have a similar problem in that my partner is for ever mentioning drink and drinking in front of me. But you know I find that I am relaxed about it because when he drinks he knows when to stop and I know that if I jo…
Ya I agree with you Rick, some times I feel that it is only my dog that understands me or at least he is the only one who can see past all my faults and still love the bastard that I some times can be. Stick in there Rick because your animals only w…
Profile Information
- Hometown:
- Dublin
- Relationship Status:
- In a Relationship
- How long clean and sober
- Just starting out
- About Me:
- i am a forty two year old guy. I am gay and in a long term relationship. I work in a kind of dead end job as drinking has kept me static in my life.
- Looking for?
- people to share my new journey into soberity with. I think gay people have particular issues around drink as the whole social scene is around bars and drinking, so would like to chat to other gay people as well.
James Jameson's Blog
Getting face to face meetings
James in Dublin here-I am just back from an AA meeting, i found it good as i have a new approach in that i take from the meeting what i feel is appropriate for me and i leave behind stuff that i just can not get my head around. I do this in a quiet and none judgemental way and do not try to bring any of the LifeRing approuch to the meeting. In a way you could say i am moulding the AA meeting to suit my needs just as we would do with a PRP (personal recovery programme). I love the collective vibe… Continue
Posted on October 30, 2009 at 2:59pm — 2 Comments
Feeling "Drinky"
Have been feeling like a drink this evening-but i am going to fight to stay clean using all the skills i have learned so far from LifeRing!
At least now i feel that i have a choice (volition- I did not even know what that word meant until today and hears me thinking that i know every thing!)
At least now i feel that i have a choice (volition- I did not even know what that word meant until today and hears me thinking that i know every thing!)
Posted on October 18, 2009 at 11:30am — 5 Comments
Third Day
James here- so glad to be here reading all your posts. Just got tp the point in Martin Nic's new book were he talks about the use of A (addicted self) and S (sober self) when dealing with our thoughts. I am finding this very help full when dealing with the cycle running in my head. i can see clearly now when my mind is vearing toward addicted ideas. This is the problem i have had in the past where my mind would slowly be building up to my next binge by planting little addicted tags in my head. T… Continue
Posted on October 17, 2009 at 4:59am —
Comment Wall (11 comments)
- At 7:17am on December 3, 2009,
Michelle a/k/a flitter said…
- I agree, one reason AA never helped me much. Hearing everyones crazy stories that would scare the sheit out of most people, actually wanted me to have more fun like that drinking again......brought to mind the "good" "fun" times.
I understand 'bout having to quit reading. I had to quit watching intervention, for some reason it became a trigger for me too.
- At 2:55am on November 26, 2009,
Fran said…
- Hey James, I'm still here :) Nice to "see you" in your pic. Hope things are good with you? My week's going ok -trundling along between busy and bit stressful at work (boss = munster) and running around after my wee girl trying to think up entertainment for wet afternoons, but hallelujah it finally stopped raining this morning for a little while at least.
I liked your Third Day post from October - about those little addicted tags that that get planted in your head when you're building up to a next binge. Thought about that a lot over a few days after I read it, as is exactly how my mind works and I'm working to try and put a stop to those sort of thought patterns, which isn't easy I find when I've thought like that for as long as I can remember. But I find that identifying them as addicted tags when they happen, like you were saying, seeing them for what they are and how they spiral towards my oh, fuck-it drinking, really seems to help. So thanks for posting.
Take care,
Fran
- At 10:44pm on October 25, 2009,
Patrick N said… - Hi James - i appreciate your comments on the expose AA thread. How are things going in Irish LifeRing? Heard a little from Seamus and the successful meetings in Dublin. In Victoria BC we are having a blast - we make humour mandatory and there's no shortage of it.
Regards Patrick
- At 5:24pm on October 19, 2009,
John said… - Hey there James. Im happy you found something in my story. I did the same with others. I found that it is often difficult not to feel isolated while drinking and even now in the early stages of recovery..... but noticing so many people with such similar behavior patterns all over the world somehow makes you feel so less alone.
Its such a cliche, but i have discovered that "the truth shall set you free" has been key to my recovery. Allowing myself to be honest with my family and friends and LifeRing in every aspect of my life has proven thus far to be quite liberating.....Shedding that old skin.
I am aware that its early on but i'm still feeling strong 20 days sober. No urges yet, however my eyes do light up when they pass over all of the familiar liquor store signs, followed by a quick reminder in my mind that "i'm not allowed", like a kid in Wonkas factory.....
GOOD LUCK TO YOU JAMES ! Let go of that needy child inside of you.
- At 9:52am on October 16, 2009,
Beth B said… - Binge drinking is my issue too. Leaves you feeling awful the next day and you can't remember what you did the night before. Sucks!
- At 8:56am on October 16, 2009,
Dennis S said… - James:
I will go into Outhouse around 7:30. Will be downstairs with the men's group. I will not be going upstairs to the meeting. If you wish to meet, I will be there. Dennis
- At 8:29am on October 16, 2009,
Dennis S said…
- James: You are right about the cliques. If you want a gay AA meeting in Dublin that is good, I would suggest Thursday at the Carmelite Center at 6:30. Problem is this conflicts with LifeRing at St. Pats.
I was co-founder of that gay meeting. It is a discussion meeting not the usual format found in Dublin. I am personally committed to LifeRing. It is positive, empowering, non-judgmental. Please try us, I think you will like the difference.
Dennis
- At 6:42am on October 16, 2009,
Jim said… - welcome, you will find support in here to help you on the journey to sobriety.Look around the lifering site, e mail lists, chat room and a lot of info
- At 2:55pm on October 15, 2009,
Dennis S said…
- James:
I did no read your bio before my comments were sent. I am a gay man. I got sober 30 years ago through AA. I cannot bash that program but I firmly believe there needs to be another option available in Ireland. LifeRing is a positive empowering method. I will make anobservation. Irish AA is not at all like where I got sober. Harrisburg, PA 30 years ago was more like LifeRing. I was taught that I had a choice to drink or not drink on a daily basis. It was my choice and my responsibility. I
was taught practical tools to stay sober. Many of the same tools are located in the "TOOLBOX" on the LifeRing web site.
Our members here are a mixture of people from all walks of life and sexual orientations.. Sobriety (Clean) Priority is our goal.
Email me at LifeRing.Dublin.Irl@gmail.com and I will give you my mobile number. We can meet for coffee and go from there if you like.
Dennis S.
- At 2:38pm on October 15, 2009,
Dennis S said…
- James: There are two LifeRing meetings going in Dublin. They are:
Dublin Central Mission Lower Abbey Street (across from LUAS stop) Tuesdays at 6:30 in the Wesley room.
St Patrick's Hospital between the James and Heuston LAUS stops, Thursday evenings at 7:10 in room H. You will need to sign in at the main entrance desk.
You will be more than welcome to both. We have about 6 people on Tuesdays and 15 on Thursdays (50% clients of hospital).
As Bart R said, we do not have sponsors in LifeRing as there is no "program" to teach. It is an individual "process" to build your own recovery plan. The meetings provide support, insights and a workshop environment to empower each member to stay clean and sober.
Welcome on board. Create a fascinating and fulfilling recovery with us.
Dennis S.
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