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We got the first big storm of the season coming in! WOO HOO! Not so good for riding but I sure love stormy weather! Oct 12

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BartR commented on danaflett's blog post 'Despair...'

Recognizing when and how much support/help we need is a very large part in staying sober I think. It doesn't have to be a struggle. It is not an issue of "surrender" so much as it is just acceptance. For me, I find it easier to just approach it f...

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BartR commented on Dale Phelps's blog post 'Pre-Holiday Check-in, update or whatever....'

Kudos on your very long period of sobriety! It really is GROSS! Especially today and Monday. "They" took a holiday that actually is my favorite and tried to ruin it with rampant commercialism. Black Friday and Cyber Monday - just so disgusting.

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Rick F. replied to BartR's discussion 'Free Speech Allowed'

Such numbers as I have seen (although of questionable "solidity") suggest a success rate not much better, if better at all, than that of a control group whose members attempt to recover on their own. Fortunately, being an innately wary sort of pe...

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Rick F. replied to BartR's discussion 'Free Speech Allowed'

The concept of "deflation at depth" is a wholesale borrowing from Buchman's Oxford Groups. The technique applies to only about a third of human beings, by temperament; it can do serious damage to the other two-thirds of us -- and it does. (From th...

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Antelope, California

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22 months.

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I work at home since 1994 and find it to be great, though isolating.

My son Eric (22) and I enjoy spending time with my dogs, "Emma" and "Stuart" and my cat "Stickers."

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Local Cyclist relapses

My son has raced professionally with Chad Gerlach, he is local here in my town and so this especially hit home.

It caused be a bit of sadness this morning but also is a reminder and another good reason not to drink.

Chad was also featured on the A&E series "Intervention."

What I find most disheartning and yet not completely unexpected are some of the comments from the newspaper's readers.

http://www.sacbee.com/topstories/story/2229294.html?mi_pluck_action=comment_submitted&qwxq=49552… Continue

Posted on October 4, 2009 at 7:30am — 2 Comments

THERE IS NO RECOVERY. THERE IS NO RELAPSE.

THERE IS NO RECOVERY. THERE IS NO RELAPSE.

Did that get your attention? It must have if you are reading this. :)

There is no disease. At least not in the sense we normally perceive disease. You are not powerless. There is no reason to be "in recovery." Try throwing out the word "recovery." Maybe replace it with something else...how about "discovery."

Throw out the word "alcoholic" and replace it with "sobrieitist."

It's about perception. It's all about how you look at it. I was in the chatro… Continue

Posted on March 14, 2009 at 3:00pm — 2 Comments

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At 4:07am on November 26, 2009, Fran said…: Hey Bart, hope all's good with you.

Just to say a thank you really. I've been reading old posts over the past month or so and read a reply you posted to Adorabelle's blog - where you talked about deflection and "STOP THOUGHT" : http://www.livestrong.com/article/14703-thought-stopping-in-recovery/ ) - in case anyone else is interested.

This wasn't something I'd come across. I've not done a lot of reading yet about things, although I'm starting too. It sounded when I first read it like, "such a simple idea surely can't work?", but I've been working on it for a couple of weeks now and god it really works so well I'm finding!

Not just for drinking thoughts either. Bye bye to all those wee small hours making anxious lists in my head-type thoughts about work or, "let's lie here replaying past humiliations in my head - that'll pass the time productively at this hour" and other such ridiculous things that I'm prone to.

I've ordered the Philip Tate book you mentioned now too so will let you know how I get on with that.

Anyway, just to say thank you.

Best wishes,

Fran

At 10:03am on November 24, 2009, danaflett said…: Thankyou for your nice comment,means alot,hope you have a nice day.

At 8:14am on November 14, 2009, Nucular Scientist said…: :) Rocket science is much easier.

At 2:02pm on November 4, 2009, adorabelle said…: Hey Bart, all's well thank you very much Bart :)

It's my 33rd Birthday today & it's been FAB! I did an hour & a half workout in the gym & after picking my little girl up I went swimming with her for almost 3 hours! Been with my sister, whose 14, allday too which has been lovely - she baked me a cake this morning & we had it for breakfast!

128 days sober today !!!! Go me ! And don't you worry I Always keep in mind DDNMW

Hayley xx

At 8:06am on October 16, 2009, James Jameson said…: thanks Bart for your comment-i did not know about the no sponsors thing-hope your having a good day- i have the new book so will get more of an idea of the Life Ring appraoch over the next few days.

At 8:36am on October 12, 2009, John said…: Thank you for the quick warm welcome. It took me a few days to find "your sober self"..... But I'm glad I did...... Great concept. ....feeling inspired.

At 4:47pm on October 6, 2009, Andy W. said…: Thanks Bart

At 1:11am on September 3, 2009, Rama Sethu Ranga Nathan said…: Friendly n Loving Nature
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"Most people come into our lives and quickly leave. It is the special few that come in and leave footprints on our hearts and we are forever changed.
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At 9:35am on August 26, 2009, France said…: Bart, I just love your pics. That's so great that Emma and Stuart are doxies! How old? I should have known from the intelligence, warmth, uniqueness and sensitivity of your comments that you're a dachshund person. :-)
I was once engaged to a mini named Vito. He would stand there, wordlessly, looking at me with those soulful eyes, one paw raised, and I knew he was looking into my soul and understanding me like no one before ever had. When he passed away, I fostered with dachshund rescue in Chicago. For the last 9 years, I've been doing in-home dog boarding for small and senior dogs, so I still have my doxie visitors to look forward to.